Thuhmaihruai:
Vei
tampi cu inn sungsang ih buainak a suak ṭheunak hi, nupa karlak theihthiam aw
lo le simngam aw lo ruangah a si ṭheu. Cumi theihthiam aw lo nak lakah a tel
vemi pakhat le a thupi zetmi pakhat cu nupa sinak (sex life) pakhat le pakhat nupa kar lak ah zaleng zetin simngam aw
lo nak a tel. A bikin USA ih ummi Chin mi, inn sungsang khal ah hivek tampi a
thleng rero. Hrekkhat nuncang ziaza ṭhalo hrimhrim ruangah nupa ṭhenaw mi an um
vekin, hrekkhat lala cu nupa karlak “sex”
hman tlang dan thiamlo le theithiam aw lo ruangah ṭhen aw nak tiang a suakmi
tla an um thotho. Himi cahram ih duhsan nak pakhat cu Bible ih Pathian in a
thianghlim a timi nupa sinak hi nupa karlak ah hlim le zaleng zetin hmang thiam
in, a nunnuam mi inn sungsang le nupa tuak si thei nak ding hi a si.
Tumtahmi:
Ø Pathian ṭihzah mi le zohṭhimtlak
Khristian nupa/innsang sinak ding
Ø Pathian ih pekmi nupa sinak
hmanthiam thei ding
Ø Bible ih simmi thawn kaihaw in,
nupa sinak hmandann ding
Ø Nupa karlak ṭongkam a thupit zia
theihnak ding
Ø Nupa karlak ih theihthiamaw ṭulmi
pawl theihnak ding
Bible
in nupa neihaw nak ziang tin in sim?
What
does the bible say about marriage?
Bible
ih nupa neihaw nak a lang tir duhmi pakhat cu Khrih thawn pumkhat kan sinak a
lang tir nak a si. Thusut nak a um ṭheumi cu, nupi in pasal thu a ngai ṭul
taktak maw? tih hi a si. Efesa 5: 25-33. Pasal
in nupi a duhdawt tikah, pasal ih thungai cu a mah ten duhdawtnak ih rah suahmi
pakhat vekin a ra dingmi a si. Mirang ih “submit”
tiih, Bible ih a simmi cu veikhat lawng tuah ding siloin, ‘continual attitude’ tuah ringring dingmi kha a kawhhmuh nak a si.
Submission: timi cu ṭihzah upatnak,
tlamtlin tirnak. Nupi in Khrih ih kawhhran a duh vek in duhdawtnak a neih ah
cun pasal thungai a har nawnlo tinak tluk a si.
Efesa 5:24 ih a sim duhsan mi cu thudik le
thilṭha ah lawng pasal thungai ding a ti duhnak a si.
Matthew Henry in,” Nu pawl hi Adam ih hnakruh
ih tuahmi an si ih, pasal pawl uk dingah, Adam ih lu in tuahmi le, mipa hnakih
niamih um dingah Adam ke ih tuahmi an silo. Bangran ten mipa ih kilveng nakih
um ding le duhdawt dingah Pathian in a tuahmi an si” tiah a ti.
Efesa 5;22-33 ih a sim duhbikmi sawn cu; nupi
pawl in pasal thungai timi kha, an sinak niamsawn ruangah si loin, Pathian in
nupa karlak umdan ding hrimhrim ih a rak tuahcia mi a si. Cuvek thotho in pasal
khalin, nupi cu duhdawtnak sangbik thawn duhdawt ding a si ve.
Nupa
neihaw nak san ziang a si?
What
is the purpose of marriage?
Pathian
in nupa neihawnak hmaisabik Sem: 2:18
ih a rak tuah lai ah, nupi cu bawmtu,
hnemtu, rualpi dingah a rak tuahsak mi a si. Mirang in, “fellowship, companionship, mutual help & comfort”. an ti. Cu lawng siloin, nupa neihaw nak ih
a san lala cu inn sungsang dinih, tefa nei ih ci karh zai tir dingah le Pahian
ih in pekmi leiram luah dingah khal a si.
2 Cor. 6:14 ah a cang thei cun, zumtu le
zumtu neihaw ih Pathian ṭihzahmi fa nei ding in duh sak nak kan hmu thei.
Cubakah, sualnak neimi mi pahnih neiaw tikah, Pathian hnenih ap aw lo cun,
harsatnak tampi a suah tir ruangah Pathian ih theihpi mi kan si ṭul.
Nupa
thianghlim ten neihaw nak ihsin nu le pa sualnak lak ihsin kan thiar fihlim aw
thei I Cor7:2. Kiangkap ih nu le pa
tukforhnak hiarhal nak ihsin pial in nupa ten hmang a theih. Thufim 18:22; Pathian in nupa neihaw nak
cu a thianghlimmi, kan hrangah nomnak le harhdamnak dingih in tuahsak mi a si.
Nupa
neihaw nak in Krih ih milai in duhdawtnak khal a lang tir (Thuphuan 19:7-9, 21:1-2).
Kumkhua
ṭhenawk lo dingah ziang a Ṭul?
Making marriage last-what is the key?
Nupa
ṭhenawlo dingah ‘emotional affair’
timi midang thawn ngaizawng awknak hrial ding hi thupi zet mi a si. Hnaṭuannak
le lenglam ih ‘opposite sex’ midang
hnenih kan umdan thusim mi pawl, cinri ‘boundaries’
neih tengteng ding a si. Cu lo cun, second
karlak teah, thil si lolo a cang suak
thei. Cu lawng si lo in, nupa thu elawk ih thinheng tik khalah, midang hnenah
va sim cinglo ding. Himi in, ṭhatlonak sawn a suahpi ṭheu.Mai nupi pasal si lo
mi, mithmai peklo ding khal a thupi zet. Vei khat cangsual cun, nupa ṭhenawknak
a suak tir thei.
Hrial
ṭulmi pawl:
1)
Nangmah te lawng, mi pakhat khat ‘opposite
sex’ thawn caan hmang hlah. Abikin na uar deuhmi lole a lo uar deuhmi
thawn.
2)
Na nupi/pasal hnakin midang thawn caan tam sawn va hmang hlah.
3)
Nupa karlak thuthup tivek, na nupi/pasal na sim hlanah, midang va sim hlah.
4)
Mi ih hmuh ban le theih thei dingin thil tuah ringring aw. A bik in na
nupi/pasal kiangah.
5)
Nangmah ten na um caanah Bible siar le thlacam nak thawn caan hmang in, Pathian
hnenah bawmnak dil aw.
6)
Ruahnak thianghlim te nei aw. Si lolo ‘Sikkuyin
(fantacize)’ ciamco hlah.
7)
Na nupi/pasal thawn nitin, zarhtin, thlatin caan nei tum in, duhdawtnak a hnget
thei nak dingah caan hmang tlang thiam ringring dingin zuam aw.
Pathian
in nupa cu hmunkhat le pumkhat ih um tlang ding in duh sak..Sem 2:24, Mt. 19:6. Nupa lenglam va uire
tumlo ding Thufim 6:25, Suah 20:14, Mt 5:28. Nupa karlak
duhdawtnak upat thiam ding…
Zumtu
nupa, ziang vekin nupa sinak hman in siang?
What is a Christian couple allowed to do in sex?
Heb. 13:4 ah Ṭhitawknak cu zokhal in upat
hmaizah ding a si. Nupi le pasal cu zumtlak in um veve haiseh. 13:4 Nupi le pasal cu zumtlak in um veve
haiseh: timi hi Grik ṭongfang ih leh ahcun, Ihkhun cu thianghlim seh ti a si.
Nupa sualnak a tuahtu le ṭang ṭawm sualnak a tuahtu pawl cu thu ṭhennak an tong
ding”. tin a sim nan, Bible in nupa neiawmi nupa sinak hmang dan ding le hmanlo
dan ding a sim dahlo.
I Cor 7:5 “Caan tawite sung thlacamnak ka
duh tiah nan lung a kim tlaang hmasa ti dah lo ahcun khat le khat nan duh
hiarnak kha el aw hlah uh. Cu ṭheh hnuah nupa in um sal uh. Cuti a si lole suup
awk thei lo ruangah Satan sual thlemnak sungah nan tla pang ding.” Himi ih a
sim duhmi cu nupa karlak ziangvek kan tuah khal ah a bikin (sex) nupa sinak kan hmang ding le pahnih ih lungkim tlangmi si
ding a kawhhmuh duhmi a si. Pakhat le pakhat duhlo cingin (sex) tuah tir aw ding a si lo vekin, pahnih lungkim in ‘position’ dangdang in tuah ding le khal
Bible in a khamlo.
Bible
ih a duhlo mi pawl cu, mi pathum/li le tampi
‘threesomes, foursomes’ thawn ‘sex’ hman tlang, nupa lungkim in midang
nupi/pasal thawn um tlang ‘uire’, lawng
fangkheh zuk zoh “pornography” tvp (Gal.5:19, Efe 5:3, colo3:5 I Thes 4:3, I
Jn 2:16). Hi pawl siarlo cu, nupa ten lungkimnak neih tlang dandan in ‘sex’ hmang thei tinak a si.
Bible
in ‘oral sex’ pawi a ti maw?
What does the Bible say about oral sex?
“Oral
Sex” timi cu Lai ṭong in simfang bupbi ding a harsa. Asinan, sanman deuh nupa
in cu theih ṭheh mi a si. A tawi zawng in kan sim a si le nu le pa zahmawh lole
kan taksa ih a hiar nak pawl kaa hmang in nupa sinak hman dan a si ti sehla
tampi a sual lo ding. Mipa in nunau hrangih tuahmi cu ‘cunnilingus’, an ti ih, nu
in mipa a tuah sakmi cu ‘fellatio’,
tin an ko. Hi pawl hi, Bible ah hmuh ding an umlo.
Thusutnak
pahnih a um ṭheumi cu:
1)
Nupa neihaw hlanih ‘oral sex’ tuah a
sual maw?
2)
Nupa si hnuih tuah teh a sual maw?
Bible
in cu fiangzet in a sim mi a umlo nan, Bible hmangin simfiang theimi cu a um.
Number
pakhatnak hi a bikin tulai mino pawl ih sut mi ah a tel mi a si.’Sex’ ngaingai a si lo, nau pai theilo,
natnak suanaw theilo..tvp. ih tuah a thiang ko lo maw tih hi an thusut nak bik
cu a si. Bible in cu: Efe5:3 ah
fiangten a sim mi cu “Pathian minung nan si ruangah nupa sualnak, zoh mawi loih
nunnak le hamṭamnak pawl cu nan lakah a rel hman rel nawn hlah uh” ti a si ih,
simfiang ṭul lo in, a fiang zet. Bible ih ‘immorality’
thianghlimlo a timi cu I Cor 7:2 ah hitin a um “Asinain nupa sualnak a tam
ruangah mipa in amah ih nupi lawng nei sehla, nunau khal in amah ih pasal lawng
nei seh.” Ṭong dang lam deuhin kan sim a si le, nupa karlak silo in, lenglam ih
nupa sinak va hmang mi ‘any form of
sexual contact outside of marriage’ a ti duhnak san a si. Bible in ‘sex’ cu nupa neihaw mi hrangah a ti. Curuangah;
1)
cu sual cikhat a si.
2)
Nupa si hnu ih ‘oral sex’ hmang teh
sual a si maw? timi hi zumtu nupa ih an sut tamzetmi a si. Bible in fiangfai
ten a simlo nan, nupa pahnih lungkimnak le nuam tih zawng a si ah cun, Bible in
cu sual a tinak a um lo. Nupa ten lungkim ih tuah ding kha a thupi mi cu a si.
TIKCU
CAAN HMAN DAAN
BALANCING WORK, PERSONAL LIFE & FAMILY
Nupa
karlak ah a thupi zetmi thotho mi cu, caan hman dan hi a si. Zarhkhat nazi 168
um mi sungah ziang tin caan na hmang? Hnaṭuannak ah nazi paziat na caan na
hmang ih, mahhrang ṭhansonak (zirnak, casiar) ah teh ziangtin caan na hmang.
Cubakah mahhrang ṭulmi (ei,in, ih) caan, sungkua/nupa le rualpi thawn teh ziang
tluk caan na hmang ti mi le Thlarau
hrang (biaknak lam) le mah tuahduhmi ‘fun’
hrang ah siseh, senpi hrang ‘Community’
hrang pawl ah ziang tluk in caan na pek timi zohsal aw ringring ding a thupi
zet. Himi pawl zoh sal in, nupa karlak duhdawtnak hnget sinsin dingah;
1)
Khuimi zawn ah caan na pe tam ṭul?
2)
Khuimi zawn ah caan na pe mal ṭul?
3)
Ziangmi si thleng a ṭul na tim pawl hi a ṭul dan vekin na tuah thiam a si le
tampi nupa karlak ah ṭhathnemnak a lo pe ding.
Zumtu
nupa, Sex ziangtin kan hmang ding ih ziangtin thazang kan pek aw ding?
• Nupa karalak ah sex cu a thupibik
lonan, a thupimi lakah pakhat a si.
• Pakhat sangsang ih paihlo cingin
sex hman tum lo ding.
• Pasal kha ‘robot’ a silo ti theihthiam ding.
• Pakhat lawng khawpkham ten ṭheh
ih pakhat ṭheh manlo tivek umlo dingin ralring thiam ding.
• Nupi khal pasal khal a nuam kan
tinak zawn le a nuam kan tinak theihthiamsak aw ding.
• Sex hman laiah, nupa karlak ah
zalen zetin hman ding. Hmaisong aw lo ding.
• Veikhat veihnih cu rinlo paral ah
pahnih lungkim in, tuah tlang thiam ding.
• Pathian in thupi zetih in tuah
vekin, kan nupa in mi thupi kan si.
• Thil rak tuahsual zomi pawlah,
thinlung ret ringringlo in, thil tuahfuhmi ah thinlung retin, hmailam thlir in,
feh thiam ding.
• Miih in lawmnak hngaklo in,
kanmah ten kan lawmaw thiamin thazang pek aw thiam ding.
• Kan tuahmi thil hmuahhmuah in rah
a nei ih, fa le, miphun hrangah rahṭha rah thei dingin, nitin Pathian ṭhihzah
in kan nung ding.
• Pathian ih saduhthah ih tuanmi
kan si ih, thil ziang hmuahhmuah pahtlang theinak huham thawn in thuam.
• Pathian in cemtheilomi duhdawtnak
thawn in duhdawt
• Ṭihphannak neiin kan umlo ding
• Cuti menin kan thin a hengdahlo
ding
• Mi kan duhdawtih, mi bawm nuam
kan ti
• Pathian kan zumih, zianghman kan
phanglo
• Kan lungkim tawkih, kan thin har
lo
• Pathian in kan ṭulsammi in pek ṭheh
Zohṭhimmi pawl:
1) Time Management 101 By: Dr. Jacqualyn Green
2) Love Your Life (Living Happy,
Healthy & Whole) By: Victoria Osteen
3) Power Thoughts By: Joyce Meyer
4) The 5 Love Languages (The secret
to Love That Lasts) By: Dr. Gary Chapman
